Strut into the limelight, pose for the cameras, use the attention. The fellowship clothes me in sparkling opportunities and grooms me with good publicity. Frankly I prefer backstage. But I do want an audience for the story of marriage and international migration. Publicity shapes policy and in the news the failures abound: discontented middle-age men who seek and destroy young foreign women; unscrupulous women who marry for a green card and then disappear; miserable marriages of countless variations. A variety of regulations seek to handle the fiascoes. Yet the successful matching of ethnic hues, national fabrics, and cultural patterns also deserves attention. At the Fulbright orientation I shared EU spouse status with several of the score of participants. Our presence speaks silently for continuing spousal preference and family reunification. In a global world linking lands and hands fosters understanding.